Almost anyone, even mildly involved in sports, knows the importance of setting goals. But the truth is that the vast majority of people don’t do it correctly and that is why they often fail to reach their goals or end up giving up before accomplishing them. In fact, even those who successfully set and achieve goals, often don’t realize what they are doing and when explaining it to others, they teach them wrong.
But now I will let you in on the secret. If you understand what I explain in this and the following posts, you can improve your success rate almost instantaneously. This is true for sports, work, relationships, and almost anything else you want in your life.
The first thing you need to do is get a goal book. If you want to succeed at anything in life, writing it down must be a part of it. Most people fail to reach their goals right from the start because they refuse to write them down. Each person has their own excuse for not writing it down. Some say they feel stupid doing it. Others don’t want to put it in black and white because inside they feel they are setting themselves up for disappointment. Still others are simply lazy. I don’t care what your excuse is, I am here to tell you that you have two choices right now. One, you can write down your goals, or two you can fail. If you choose not to write your goals, and choose rather just to be one of the average athletes, instead of a champion, that is perfectly fine. 90% of the people in the world make that same decision everyday. But if you want to be in that top 5-10 percent, then read on.
My suggestion is to get a “diary”. You can get one almost anywhere, like Walmart. Just a basic book with blank pages. The reason I prefer this is that your book of goals is something special, and a simple 95 cent notebook doesn’t send the right message.
Once you have your goal book, the first thing you need to do is open up to the first page and write down who you are. Write your name, address, and phone number. Write down a description of yourself, using nothing but positive words. For example, you may write that you are intelligent, a quick thinker, adapt easily to any situation. You are aggressive on the mat with strong determination to win. You are friendly and a modest winner. You may need help writing this description. I often requested the help of my father or my coach in writing this, because they knew me and are better with words than I was.
Once you have your vision of who you are, turn the page. On this next page, you need to write down what you want. Be careful here, all I am saying to write down are those things you want. It could be internal things, like I want to be a better person. Throughout my life, I have consistently written that I want to be a “cleaner person”. I am kind of disorganized and messy. It can also be external things you want, like winning the State Championship, or beating your top competitor in your weight class. I also often wrote down certain techniques that I wanted to perfect such as a single leg, or an inside trip.
Here is how you should think of this part. Think of what would make you the happiest person in the world if you had it, and then write that down. Do NOT think for a second about what you need to do to get it. I repeat: DO NOT take into consideration how hard or easy any of these things are to get. Just write down what you most want.
Now turn the page. Now you need to think about each of those things you want and decide what you would need to do to achieve them. Be specific here. The first thing that every person must write here is “I will give everything 100% effort at all times”. This includes every practice and every match and everything else in between. So, for example, if you want to be a National Champion, then you probably need to work out several times a week. You need to visualize at least an hour or two every day. You need to lift weights, run, learn and practice (drill) new techniques. You need to talk to those who successfully accomplished what you want and learn from them. And so on. Just start writing down everything you think will be necessary to get what you want. Again, I often asked for help from my parents and my coaches to help me write this.
Now, when you are done, read out loud what you have written to your parent or your coaches; not what you “want”, but what you “need to do” to get what you want. Read it all carefully and then turn the page and write the following exactly as it is written below:
Will I do everything I need to do to get what I want?
Then write your answer. If your answer is “no”, then you need to go back and review what you want, because if you are not willing to do what it takes to get what you want, then you will never achieve it. If your answer is “yes”, then listen carefully, very carefully to what I am about to say:
What you have just answered “yes” to are your GOALS! Everything you wrote on that previous page is a complete list of your goals, and you have agreed that you WILL accomplish your goals. What you wrote on the other page are simply “consequences” of achieving your goals. If you succeed in achieving your goals, if you do everything you said you needed to do, then you will get what you want as a consequence.
What does this mean? It means you cannot fail in your goals. Well, actually, you can fail. You could “quit”. If you quit and don’t do everything you said you needed to do, then you failed to reach your goals. The first thing you wrote was “I will always give 100% effort”. If you quit and do not give 100% on all those items, then you will fail. But as long as you do what is on that list and do it with 100% effort, then you absolutely cannot fail in accomplishing your goals.
Now, I will be honest with you, accomplishing your goals never guarantees that you get everything you want. I never got everything I wanted every year. I got most, but not everything. Nobody ever gets everything all the time. Everybody loses matches at least sometimes. But I will guarantee that you will never fail. Throughout my career, I can honestly say that I never failed in any of the goals I set for myself. Sometimes I have set the wrong goals and they did not get me exactly what I wanted, and sometimes what I did just wasn’t enough to get what I wanted, but I never failed to do everything I thought was necessary and never failed to give it 100%.
When I had to walk away from wrestling in 1993 due to my knee injury, well short of obtaining my ultimate desire of Olympic Gold, I walked away proud and happy, knowing that right up to the last minute I did everything I thought was necessary to get what I wanted and gave it everything I had. I did not get my Olympic Gold medal, but I did not fail.
This is the secret to always accomplishing your goals. It is simply understanding that your goals are NOT that first page of who you are, NOR the second page of what you want. Your goals are the third page of “what you will do”. And on the fourth page, you have already written the answer of whether or notyour will succeed in accomplishing your goals. You wrote “yes”! Now simply go out and accomplish your goals, knowing you cannot, and you will not fail. No excuses, no fear.
Believe in this, and your success is just a thought away. Next week I will follow-up with continuation of how to succeed in your goals.